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Sunday, April 7, 2013

Thoughts on Recovery


 Money Difficulties?


With so many people today dealing with an ever increasing debt load, bankruptcy, foreclosure and even long term unemployment money becomes a greater and more central stress factor in our lives. As we worry about money problems and falling into debt our whole life revolves around all the negative possibilities of not having money. The more you worry about money the more that you notice every little cent that you spend. The more you are aware of how much you have to spend the more you worry about how little you make.

This creates a vicious cycle of negativity about money and spending.

If you have stopped to consider what is happening you will see the obvious trap. If you are thinking about debt, increasing bills and decreasing income all the time then that is exactly what happens. You will see bills everywhere you go. Going to the mailbox will be a torture that you endure each day because, guess what, inside your mailbox you will find bills. You will also find letters from friends, birthday cards or maybe even a coupon book that will help to save money, but you won’t see them because you are focused on debt, bills and lack of cash.

You have to stop thinking about debt and lack of money, which are negative thoughts, and start thinking about positive thoughts. See yourself going to the mailbox and finding a check or a book of coupons that will save you money at the store. See yourself having what you need and being grateful for all that you have. Don’t dwell on what you don’t have but look to the future and to the blessings that you have today. When you start to focus on all the wonderful things in your life, many which have nothing to do with money, you will automatically feel spiritually richer and more fulfilled. This in turn leads to a positive view of the future and chances to change your positive financial opportunities in the world around you.





Do You Want To Live In The Real World In 2012?


Many people that don’t feel a strong sense of connection to the world around them turn to ways to escape into a reality where they feel they do have a connection. This can be a very powerful escape mechanism that often doesn’t look like the addiction that it is. In my book the Law of Sobriety I focus on how alcohol and drug addictions can ruin lives, but in reality the computer can be just as problematic. Making a change from spending hours on the computer to connecting to real people in the world around may be the best New Years resolution if you find yourself in this addiction trap.

People may turn to a variety of aspects of the internet and the computer to escape from the negativity of the world they are currently experiencing. This may include internet porn, spending hours and hours on social media websites or becoming a constant player in 3D and role playing games that allow players to create a powerful persona that is just the person we want to be.

While this may seem like a healthy escape it is absolutely devastating. People that rely on these online simulations and games become more isolated and alone in the real world. What needs to happen is all the energy that is going into creating that perfect online persona needs to go into envisioning yourself being successful in the real world. You need to see yourself in social settings, meeting new people, building that relationship you seek and interacting in your community. By opening up all the possibilities of these types of real and positive relationships in your mind you are prepared when the opportunities arise. When you are off the computer and in the real world you will find that the person you want to be is right there inside of you; not just in some virtual world on your computer.




Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of The Law of Sobriety which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction.

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Best Choice for Alcohol Addiction: Couples Therapy



By Rick Nauert PhD Senior News Editor

Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on April 21, 2010


A new research effort assessed the benefit of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for alcohol-dependent women.

The innovative research design also investigated if CBT was more effective if delivered as couples therapy rather than individual therapy.

Investigators Barbara McCrady and Elizabeth Epstein report that both treatment methods worked well, but women treated in couples therapy maintained their gains a bit better than those in individual therapy.

Also, women suffering from depression in addition to alcohol dependence did better in couples therapy.

Their paper appeared recently in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology.

Epstein is an associate research professor at Rutgers’ Center of Alcohol Studies. McCrady, formerly a professor of psychology at Rutgers, now directs the University of New Mexico’s Center on Alcoholism, Substance Abuse and Addictions.

Alcohol use disorders hit women particularly hard, physically and psychologically.

Epstein and McCrady cite earlier studies’ findings that between 4 and 8 percent of women under age 44 are alcohol-dependent, that as many as 65 percent of alcohol-dependent women have some additional psychiatric disorder, and that women are less likely to seek treatment for alcoholism than men.

Alcohol-dependent women have high rates of distressed marriages and not much support from members of their social networks when they try to break that dependence. Until recently, there has not been much research on unique treatments for alcohol use disorders in women.

McCrady and Epstein recruited 102 women with newspaper ads and referrals from other alcohol treatment programs. They were looking for women who were alcohol-dependent, married or in a committed relationship with a man for at least six months, and whose male partners were willing to participate in therapy.

Both groups received 20 out-patient sessions of cognitive behavioral therapy over six months, for which the goal was abstinence from alcohol. Seven therapists, all trained both in individual and couples therapy, saw the clients.

After the 20 sessions,, each participant received followup interviews on the phone and in person for another year. For each woman in each of the 18 months of the study, researchers calculated the percentage of days abstinent and the percentage of days of heavy (more than three drinks in a day) drinking.

Nearly half the women started abstaining before the first treatment session, the researchers wrote. For the first month of treatment, the abstinence rate for women still drinking in both groups rose sharply – more sharply for women in couples therapy, perhaps because they had a slightly lower rate of abstention to start with.

During the year following treatment, the women in couples treatment reported fewer heavy drinking days than women in individual treatment.

The researchers concluded that there is a widespread need for specific treatments for alcohol-dependent women, and that social support for change is important. However, not all women have spouses, and not all spouses are supportive.

Epstein and McCrady are currently recruiting women for another study comparing individual and group therapy. Participants needn’t be married or in a committed relationship for this study.

Source: Rutgers







Source:
Best Choice for Alcohol Addiction: Couples Therapy
 http://psychcentral.com/news/2010/04/21/best-choice-for-alcohol-addiction-couples-therapy/12992.html

APA Reference

Nauert PhD, R. (2010). Best Choice for Alcohol Addiction: Couples Therapy. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 30, 2012, from http://psychcentral.com/news/2010/04/21/best-choice-for-alcohol-addiction-couples-therapy/12992.html





Great drinkers think themselves important men

Vincent van Gogh

Artfully insane

Vincent van Gogh was certainly skilled... and possibly a little psychotic too
It's been nearly 120 years since Vincent van Gogh painted his iconic Sunflower series. The canvases, reminiscent of the late days of summer, examine the blooms in various
stages of life and decay. The artist's revolutionary use of colour, yellow in particular, may be the defining feature of his life's work, though his ability to evoke intense emotion using the simplest of subjects is perhaps just as significant. Like his beloved blossoms, Van Gogh's mind was in a perpetual state of change.
Van Gogh once wrote, "the sunflower is mine in a way." If only he had felt so strongly about his ear, part of which he so famously lopped off after an argument with Gauguin in 1888. What would prompt someone to do such a thing? Since his death in 1890, literally hundreds of medical historians and psychiatrists have posited theories as to what drove the brilliant artist insane. Whatever it was that pushed him over the edge, Van Gogh has become the archetype for the mad artist, whose genius was too great for his mind to bear.

THE MAN BEFORE THE MADNESS

Vincent was born on March 30, 1853 to Anna Cornelia Carbentus and Reverend Theodorus van Gogh in Groot-Zundert, the Netherlands. Little is known about his interest in art or his propensity for painting as a child, but his first official foray into the art world occurred at the age of 16 when he was apprenticed at the Hague gallery run by the Paris-based international art dealers, Goupil & Cie. After being shuffled around to various galleries for the next seven years, Vincent finally decided to quit art sales and enter the clergy, motivated by his love of the Bible and his desire to do some good. However, his obsessive tendencies soon became clear; the young preacher was a bit too zealous, prematurely starting his own ministry, rejecting all worldly possessions and living like his poor parishioners. Eventually, he was fired by the church.

The year was 1881 and he was already 27 years old. With few employment prospects and encouraged by his brother and best friend Theo, who also worked for Goupil & Cie., Vincent decided to try his hand at art, despite his lack of formal training. He moved to Brussels and, supported by his family, began taking classes at the Royal Academy of Art. Their trust in him was soon rewarded: Vincent showed remarkable promise. He painted with an undeniably unique style, achieving striking effects from average subjects. He travelled some and found peasant life to be his greatest inspiration.

The Potato Eaters (1885) is universally acknowledged as his first major work, but at the time it wasn't exactly received as a success. In his personal life, too, the veneer was beginning to crack. Though always prone to drama and intensity, Vincent's behaviour became more and more erratic. He allegedly fathered a child or two with a notorious alcoholic prostitute and argued constantly with his parents (who were less than thrilled about the prospect of supporting his unseemly girlfriend and her illegitimate offspring). Eventually, Vincent left her and moved to Brabant in the Netherlands in 1883, where his parents were living. He became incredibly prolific during this time, churning out dozens of canvases and seemingly endless drawings and sketches.

SILLINESS AND SYPHILIS

A couple of years later Vincent moved to Antwerp in Belgium, where big city life lifted his spirits somewhat, but also introduced him to a new problem: absinthe. Van Gogh drank heavily during this time, smoked like a fiend and led a generally debauched lifestyle, enjoying the company of prostitutes and badly neglecting his health. Though in Antwerp he received inspiration and further training, his time in the city also left him with syphilis.

In 1886, he moved to Paris to be with his brother. Guided by Theo, who tried to sell Van Gogh's canvases in his Montmartre gallery, Van Gogh began to leave the darker colours he favoured for the brighter hues of the popular Impressionists.

In Paris, he came into his own, developing his new palette, refining his personal style and technique, meeting friends like Gauguin and Toulouse-Lau¡trec, and painting many famous canvases, including his self-portraits. He moved to Arles in the south of France in 1888, hoping to establish an artists' community there. As a gift to welcome Gauguin, Van Gogh painted his Sunflowers to decorate his friend's bedroom. In Provence, Van Gogh produced some of his most beloved and brightest work. He painted obsessively for months on end, inspired by the light and beauty of the country.

His mind, however, was not as sharp as his artistic eye. Drinking and smoking incessantly, he began to experience delusions and seizures, in what many at the time attributed to epilepsy.

His friendship with Gauguin ended on December 23, 1888 when Vincent threatened him with a knife, the culmination of months of arguing about art and Vincent's fears that Gauguin would abandon him, which he promptly did. Destitute and alone, Vincent sliced off part of his own left ear, wrapped it in newspaper and offered it as a macabre gift to a prostitute named Rachel.

Pretty soon, Vincent was institutionalized back in Arles so his brother could keep a closer eye on him. He was plagued by manic episodes, disturbing visions and paranoia, believing he was being poisoned.

ARTISTIC ASYLUM

Van Gogh would be in and out of mental institutions for the rest of his life, alternating between bouts of psychosis and relative normalcy. In 1889, he committed himself to one such asylum in Saint Rémy, back in Provence. Here, he painted mostly in a very distinct swirling, tremulous style, one characterized by his masterpiece from this time, The Starry Night.

He was permitted to use an empty cell as an atelier and painted what he could see out the window and what he could remember, sometimes copying other painters' works for lack of visual inspiration of his own. When he was well, he was allowed to walk the grounds and paint outside. At one time, however, after he tried to kill himself by eating paint, his doctors restricted him to drawing. Despite these adverse conditions, Van Gogh arguably created his best works at Saint Rémy. Although he left the institution in 1890, he was obviously still not well. He entrusted himself to the care of a doctor in Auvers-sur-Oise recommended to him by Camille Pissarro, Dr Paul Gachet. Gachet was a bit of a lunatic and an ama¡teur painter himself, and despite the fact that Van Gogh cared for him deeply, the man was not able to do much to improve his patient's condition. During the two months he spent with the doctor and despite enjoying a brief period of calm, Van Gogh suffered from increasing alcoholism, depression and delusions.


Though he had lived and painted in relative poverty and obscurity for many years, Van Gogh's work was finally garnering serious attention. Monet himself praised him and several critics hailed him as a genius. But it was too little, too late. Of the 900 or so canvases (and 1100 drawings and sketches) he is known to have created, Van Gogh sold only one painting in his life -- The Red Vineyard -- even though his brother tried his best for years. It would have been enough to push a far lesser man over the edge.
One afternoon, Van Gogh walked into a field in Auvers-sur-Oise, shot himself in the chest and died two days later on July 29, 1890. He was only 37 years old and believed he was a failure as an artist and a man. The field was one he had painted earlier in the month in the foreboding Wheatfield with Crows, in which three separate paths diverge into the wheat under a sky of brooding black birds.

MEDICAL MYSTERY

So many theories have been put forth to explain the madness of the man, including porphyria, schizophrenia, tertiary syphilis, lead poisoning from eating paint chips and that psychiatric catch-all, bipolar disorder. Of them, one of the favourites is absinthe toxicity since it could explain his predilection for yellow and his deteriorating mental state.

Absinthe, taken in great quantities (which was certainly the case with Van Gogh) may result in xanthopsia -- an optic condition which imparts a yellowish-greenish tinge to the vision. Xanthopsia is also caused by too much digitalis, the active ingredient in the digoxin Van Gogh may have been prescribed to treat his purported epilepsy.
Indeed, many believe that Van Gogh's physical and mental problems altered his perception and therefore were at least partially responsible for his painting style. The stylized rings and swirls characteristic of his technique in The Starry Night, for example, which he painted in 1889 while in Saint Rémy, could have been influenced by the visual halo effects of Van Gogh's drinking and drugging.
It is unlikely, though, that the exact nature of Van Gogh's madness will ever be known. He believed that without his work, he would have gone completely insane, having once said, "It is only too true that a lot of artists are mentally ill -- it's a life which, to put it mildly, makes one an outsider. I'm all right when I completely immerse myself in work, but I'll always remain half crazy." Thankfully, despite his colourful personality, the true legacy he leaves is on canvas.

 






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